Yes, that's right! Today, January 6, 2012 marks my 10 years anniversary with my other half- Marcus. I never thought that I would meet anyone who I would love and fall in love with, and who I would marry 5 years later! On the night of January 6, 2002, I remember being online and browsing AsianAvenue.com. Out of boredom, I decided to look people up from Indiana (since I was born in Indiana, but raised in South Carolina). Anyways, I "found" Marcus online and we started chatting away. By the end of the night, we exchanged numbers. Let me back-up a little here. Asian Avenue was or I should say still a social site, but mostly for the Asian Community, hence the name. Everyone who was member was able to post a profile picture and design their page, similar to Myspace (seems like a long time ago that I have had a Myspace). I had pictures up, Marcus did not. I automatically assume he was Asian, but that was the least of my worries. Later in the night, while we chatted online, he told me that he was biracial, Black and Asian. Fine. I was fine with that, color doesn't mean anything to me anyways. Days goes by, Marcus calls me, we talk. All of sudden, he said he needed to tell me something. First thing that pops up in my mind, "Uh oh, I knew this is too good to be true, he has a girlfriend or something OR this is just too weird for him". Nope, he tells me that he's not biracial, nor Asian. He's Black?? That caught me off guard, entirely! Not the fact that he's black, the fact that he started this "thing" we had off with a lie! Red Flag, right?? Well, I gave him the benefit of the doubt because he said that he was afraid that I wouldn't want to talk to him because of his race! I found that kinda funny. Looking back, I can see why he did what he did, but the truth from the beginning would have been great. Well, I guess he did say he was "half Black and half Asian", so does that make half a lie?? HAHA! Remember when I said he didn't have a picture up? I didn't get to see what he looked like until a week later, yes a week because he used snail mail to send pictures!! For a whole week, I felt like I was talking to a name, Marcus, no face to match it. I'm not going to lie, I was very anxious to see what he looked like. Of course, looks are not the most important, but it does have a little effect, right? ;) Thankfully, Marcus is a hottie (to me anyways)! Nine months after we met online, we finally met in person. I was soo nervous! For one, I've never met anyone online, secondly, I hid it from my parents. Short story, my parents didn't meet Marcus until July 2004, so 2 years later! Very little people knew that I was dating Marcus. You're probably thinking why I didn't tell my parents? Because I know they wouldn't approve of the long distance relationship and I was only 17. Anyways, fast forward to 2004, After Marcus came down to visit me, it was the first time ever for him to finally meet my parents and family! Two weeks later, I ran away to Indiana. Yup, the traditional running away. I was very scared and nervous but we were love and the long distance was taking a toll on our relationship. Some of you are probably questioning why I was the one who moved. Marcus was going into his second year of school at Purdue with almost a full-scholarship so I didn't want him to waste that. So I decided to make the move. I left everything I had, my car, clothes, everything and got on a bus with just $200 cash on hand. 16 hours later, I reached my destination, Lafayette, Indiana. My parents probably thought that Marcus put me up to it. Ironically, it was just two weeks prior that he visited. Well, it was all my doing. Marcus was the one who was wanting us to do it the right way, talking to my parents about it and making sure it was ok with them. You couldn't tell me any different at that time, (there's a word for that, stubbornness)! If I wanted to do it, there was no stopping me! After it's all said and done, I do regret the way I handled it. We should have talked to my parents and let them know that we both wanted this, the move and our relationship. Luckily and thankfully, I have understanding and forgiving parents and family! They love and adore Marcus, sometimes I feel more than me....hehehe!
Fast forward again, April 28, 2007, we exchanged our vows and are living happily ever after! The rest is history!! :)
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